Stoicism As A Viking Dad

Around this time last year, I was introduced to the ancient Greek/Roman philosophy of Stoicism.  And no, I am not referring to the art of staring of into the distance wistfully, as I have been asked previously.  While the word “stoic” has in recent times been thought of as a person who is emotionless, the actual ancient art of Stoicism is far from emotionless.  In fact, it thrives on emotion.  The difference, is that you should not depend on any one emotion, especially when it comes from any action that one cannot control themselves.

I started reading “A Guide to the Good Life:  The Ancient Art of Stoic Joy“, by William B. Irvine.  This book did a really great job of defining the history and principles of Stoicism, and then converting that information into practical examples of how the philosophy could be practiced in today’s modern culture.

I followed that read up with “The Daily Stoic“, by Ryan Holiday and Stephen Hanselman.  At that time, I started to really place the practice as a central part of how I ran my life.  Ryan and Stephen’s unique review and interpretation of classic quotes from some of the Stoic greats (such as Marcus Aurelius, Seneca, and Epictetus) really set the tone for how I wanted to control my life.  How to consciously engage with actions that I could control, and also how to disengage from events which I could not control.  The design of the book, set up as a daily reader with varying quotes and discussions for each day of the year, also kept the practice as a forefront in my mind, by maintaining my practice and review of the Stoic philosophy.

The Daily Stoic cover

I am sad to admit that I did fall out of practice for a while, and I saw a noticeable difference in my attitude and general mental well-being when I stopped thinking as a Stoic.  I have recently re-instituted this daily habit, and it has helped dramatically.  The purchase of Ryan and Stephen’s “The Daily Stoic Journal” has been a great tool for me, using the daily journaling as a way to set my mind up to be in the proper frame, from right after my morning workout and coffee.

As a new Dad, I feel that patience is the key area for me to improve upon what I experienced with my father.  he had none with me, in most cases, and I always felt that it meant I was a disappointment.  I do not want my son to feel that way, so I plan to practice the improvement of my own patience on a daily basis, as a part of my Stoic journey.  An example is listed below:

Example:  The baby is crying because no one will pick him up.

For any new parent, the sound of their child crying can initiate a response that can be difficult to control.  We all know the sound our child makes when in pain, and also what sounds they make when they are mad, and resisting the urge to go and comfort them could be the difference between raising a relatively calm baby, and one who is spoiled.

As a father, I feel that it is my duty to instill a sense of self-reliance in my son, even while he is so young, which means that I lean toward the notion that a baby should learn to soothe themselves at an early age.  This isn’t just so that I can get a little more sleep, but also so that my son learns to overcome his feelings of anger, hopefully, by realizing that someone won’t always be there to make everything better.  Stoicism 101.  My wife, however… has to fight a little harder to resist the urge to run and pick him up.  And that’s fine, it doesn’t make her a bad mother, or a good mother.  It just makes her a human being.

So, as I make my way through the life of a new father, especially one who looks to reach Viking Level of Dad-ness, I will make Stoicism a part of my everyday life.  For my own good, and that of my son.

Let me know if you have any experience with Stoicism in the comments below, and also, if you have any other philosophies that you use in the upbringing of your children.

Thanks for reading!

Dad Problems

I’m tired.  I don’t want to get up to feed the baby boy.  Can’t he just grow up and go away to school already?

I know what you are saying.  “You’ll miss this time before you know it!”.  Maybe you are right.  Screaming infants make it easy to forget that sometimes.  Good thing they are so adorable, for about 5% of the day.  And thank the Heavens for their natural intuitiveness, that lets them know when to smile or laugh when you need to see it most.

But seriously…tired.  Coffee isn’t helping.  I don’t think that cocaine would even help right now.  Maybe I would have enough energy to get up and grab the remote, after a decent sized line.  Not sure, never tried it before.  The 80’s seemed to love it.

One thing that I AM willing to take, is the bull by the horns.  Exercise and losing weight could help with my energy levels, I would imagine.  Men’s Health seems to swear by it.

So, I have started a 45 day challenge to exercise in the gym, daily.  In times where I can’t be at the gym, body weight exercises will suffice.  Rolling off of the couch, sadly, does not count toward the daily goal.  Oh, and as an added bonus, that workout has to occur at 5:00 AM. Lunacy, I swear.  This is all as an ADDITIONAL exercise task, aside from my Rucking Program, Voyage to Lindisfarne, and 30 Day Wellness Challenge.  Can someone send me a shrink, please?

Follow along as I start to try and get my Viking Bod on point.  Here is today’s exercise regiment (if you can call it that):

Day 1:  Viking Bod Training

Walk and Stretch: 10 min.  Think about donuts.
Air Squats: 25 Squats.  Think about crying. because I don’t have donuts.
Standing Dumbbell Curl: 25 lbs, 10 reps, 3 sets.  Think about curling a drinking horn full of beer.
Dumbbell Press w/ Twist: 25 lbs, 10 reps, 3 sets.  Think about lifting my Viking (Incan) bride above me while in the throws of passion.
Dumbbell Row: 25 lbs, 10 reps, 3 sets.  Think about pulling my Viking Axe out of the skull of the vanquished.
Dual Pulley Pull-down: 42.5 lbs, 10 reps, 3 sets.  Think about pulling myself up a wall of a castle I am preparing to plunder.
Walk and Cool Down: 5 minutes.  Think about donuts again.

What’s The First Step?

Supplies may come in handy on my long voyage inside my garage…. so I figured that the best thing to do, was to start with a Ruck March from the beautiful Viking Ship Museum in Oslo, Norway, all the way to the Viking Pub in Oslo.  After all, any voyage to the far isles of Britain, must begin with a beer or two…or three.

So, I Googled the path from the Viking Ship Museum, to the Viking Pub, using the Maps feature.  According to Google, it is a 3.8 mile hike.  Considering I would be carrying supplies, a weapon, maybe a flask or two, if I were doing this for real, I will be carrying my own Ruck Pack with 30+ lbs. of taped up bricks…don’t ask.  I will also have a water bottle to aid in any thirst until I get to the Pub, and that will round out my supplies.

I will be tracking my ruck path today using Map My Run, and will share the distances and times rucked after I finish.  In the meantime, take a look at my slightly altered path.Day 1_Journey To the Viking Bar

Truth Bombs and Rowing The High Seas

So here is the deal. I am using some basic research, guesstimation, and a general “Yeah, that should be close enough” attitude, and converting that to an exercise plan.  So, not only will you receive my wonderful version of fatherly truth, you’ll also have plenty of opportunities to see me transform from a heavyweight Viking, to a lean and not-so-mean Viking that is able to bust a door down with an axe, row across vast seas, and drink a beer or two…or wine….or mead.  Or whiskey.

It’s no secret that I like Viking history and lore, so I thought rowing the distance from “possibly” the first route between Scandinavia and England, would be a fun way to help me get in shape for pillaging,

I have my path, I have my rower, and I have my goal.  I will be updating the path I am taking, including distances rucked (for supplies or revelry) and the distances rowed, as I move along on my Concept 2 Model D rower.

Follow along with me for encouragement and history, as I attempt to row across the North Sea to make my mark on Blighty….all from the safety of my garage or gym.  The Path

Welcome Back!

So, things have been quiet and uneventful for awhile now, so nothing really new to write.  Thanks for checking in.

Kidding.

The joys of being a new father have gotten the best of me, and have left this site and various media accounts dormant.  But I am back, and starting off with a bang.

More details to follow.