Birthday: 2019

My father passed away on the 10th of this month.  But that isn’t what this post is about.  Maybe I will write about his passing, and what it means, when I am capable of properly articulating what I want to say.  What I need to say.  What I need to have heard.

Instead, I want to talk about my birthday.  October 22nd, 2019, I turned 41 years old.  Currently, I am 41 years old, plus one week.  Over the hill.  On the downward slide.  An old fucker.

Well, maybe not the last one.

As with any birthday, I am inclined to look back on the last year.  The last life.  What I did that I wish I wouldn’t have.  What I didn’t do, that I wish I had.

After Action Reviews.  Introspections.  Recollections.

Regrets.

Scandinavian Fjord

As I sit here and take stock of my life, I realize that I tend to focus too much time and energy on what I should or should not have done in the past.  I am definitely my own worst critic (minus my father, perhaps) and fail to give as much credit to myself as I should.

Being a Dad is hard.  Being a good Dad is even harder. But, reaching Dad Level Viking status, should be the easiest.  Because to be a DLV member, you have to be passionate about improvement.  You need to be passionate about the pursuit of being a better father.  Not just a father that ticks the boxes for society’s taste, but a father who desires to instill in their children the more noble qualities of what we know about the Vikings (and more specifically, Norse culture) of over a millennium ago.  Virtues like loyalty.  Bravery.  Tenacity.

Aside from what we hope to teach our children, to be a DLV, you need to make sure that every area of your life follows the Viking principles, and more.  Not everyone is a Dad.  But everyone who is, or wants to be, needs to take care of themselves and their partners, as well as their children.  There is more work to being a DLV than just attending baseball practice.

I guess what I am getting at, is that this whole Dad Level Viking ideal is a pursuit of being the best that we can possibly be, in keeping with the ideals and cultural norms of the Norse age.  It’s a process.  A process I don’t exactly have figured out.

But a process I am willing to work at, and refine.

In the coming days, weeks, months, and years, I will share a more precise vision of what I see that can be helpful to men of this age, and by correlation, the world and all of its people. I invite you to discuss, consider, and live the focusing standards that I will unveil, and debate if necessary (as long as it is done so cordially, and intelligently).

I hope you all come along with me for this journey toward being a better person.  A better Dad.  A better husband.  A better man.

Skol!

 

P.S.  Even if you are not a Dad yet, I encourage you to participate.  Being a good Dad, will never be a final achievement.  You will need to work on it, every day of your life.  And that work that you put in, will benefit you as a man.  As a partner.  As a friend.  Regardless of current fatherhood status.

So, if you are not yet a Dad, consider this an opportunity to get a head start.  Learn from others.  Do the work now, so you can reap the rewards later.  You won’t be disappointed.

Published by Viking Mike

Just a dude trying to get to Valhalla while raising a good lil' Viking.

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